Why No Contact is Essential if You Love Your Abuser
I love my abusers. I feel compassion for them. I can rise out of my own hurt feelings to see
Tag: Narcissistic abuse
Trauma Isn’t Lazy
Trauma survivors seem to worry more than most that they are being ‘lazy’ when they aren’t 100% productive. Let’s expose
Ten Tools for Trauma Survivors
A couple years ago, I hit a serious wall. I was emotionally and physically exhausted, but didn’t understand why. Sure,
Love Bombing And Other WMDs
Abuse survivors are usually wary of new relationships for extremely good reasons that are not their fault. Almost always, the
The Difference Between a ‘Normal’ Parent and a Narcissistic Parent
Those who have survived abusive childhoods at some time or another have run into someone (or many people) making banal
When Fireworks Set You Off
I am one of many who struggle with the loud pops and bangs of the Fourth of July. I am
Gaslighting Creates A Longing To Be Understood
When I was a child, I had no tools or language to understand the abuse that was happening to me.
When The Creepiest Stalkers Are The People Who Raised You
When I was thirteen, my father burst into my room while I was doing my homework, and demanded that
Narcs Get It Twisted
Conversations with narcissists often start out like this. You make a statement about something that matters to you. It doesn’t
Narcissists Are Not Nearly As Interesting As Their Survivors
Narcissistic abuse is a strange phenomenon to experience. Because of the very nature of the abuse, victims get sucked in
