A couple years ago, I hit a serious wall. I was emotionally and physically exhausted, but didn’t understand why. Sure, I was a mom, wife, graduate student, and ran a business, but this exhaustion went much deeper than my chronic state of busyness, hyper-vigilance, and hyper-focus. Sure, I knew I had a rough childhood andContinue reading “Ten Tools for Trauma Survivors”
Tag Archives: EMDR
Why Psychological Trauma is More Damaging Than Physical Trauma
You were lied to on the playground. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Neuroscientists and psychologists have proven in spades that words hurt most of all. But first, let’s establish that abuse of any kind is horrible, heinous, and deserving of attention and care. The impact of physicalContinue reading “Why Psychological Trauma is More Damaging Than Physical Trauma”
Someday, I’ll Have to Deal With That
I consider myself to be fairly self-aware and introspective. I’ve always been willing to look at my life and my life choices from every angle and make adjustments when necessary. And yet, there was this one area of my life that I felt, instinctively, was too big, too dark, too scary for me to faceContinue reading “Someday, I’ll Have to Deal With That”
The Best Thing You Can Do to Help a Trauma Survivor Heal
I went no contact with my abusers many years ago, and in the years following, I spent much of the time putting the whole ordeal behind me. I escaped, and I went on to live a fairly successful and happy life. Or so I thought. A couple years ago, I hit the wall withContinue reading “The Best Thing You Can Do to Help a Trauma Survivor Heal”
Take This Job and Shove It
As a survivor of abuse, I’ve always known I have an over developed sense of responsibility. My narcissistic parents made sure they were never at fault for their actions, and that I was somehow required to carry that burden for them. A sense of responsibility and independence carried me through adolescence, and ended up beingContinue reading “Take This Job and Shove It”
A Day Off
When I started this blog a few months back, I only intended to write maybe two or three times a week. Instead, I’ve kept a steady stream of posts going every weekday. I’ve found it’s been a necessary and helpful outlet to express my thoughts, and also for me to observe how things are shiftingContinue reading “A Day Off”
Minimization
“It wasn’t that bad.” “What happened to me is nothing compared to what you’re going through.” “Well, at least… {insert positive thought here}” “Others have had it so much worse.” “It was a long time ago.” “Well, there’s nothing I can do about it now.” Our brains and bodies are experts at self-protection, and minimizationContinue reading “Minimization”
"Be Nice"
My entire childhood was formed around the interests of my father. My mother worked very hard to make him happy, and to ensure that my brother and I fell in line to please him. Like so many toxic parents, they worked together to abuse their children in a classic codependent pattern. My father was angryContinue reading “"Be Nice"”
Teaching an Old Brain New Thoughts
How the mind works fascinates me. I’m not a scientist, but I’ve studied quite a bit about it over the years. There are some fascinating new discoveries (that support ancient truths) about the way the brain stores information and how our physical and emotional health are all connected. Part of my process as I sortContinue reading “Teaching an Old Brain New Thoughts”
