I mentor a group of young adults, and was recently handling a situation where another mentor systematically tore down much of the esteem I had spent several weeks helping them build up. Her reasoning for doing this was to “toughen them up” and get them ready for “the real world.” When asked her why sheContinue reading “Tearing People Down is not ‘Real World’ Training”
Tag Archives: critical thinking
How To Think
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how we think. I have always been one to challenge the status quo, a habit I picked up from not going along with my abusers’ bullshit. I’ve always been able to see situations from different perspectives, another trait developed as a result of abuse. In my critical thinkingContinue reading “How To Think”
"But I Know Him…"
Recently I shared an op-ed on social media calling out a celebrity who had a history of untoward behavior and had sexually harassed the author of the op-ed when she was underage. Right away, a friend came to the defense of the accused, claiming she worked with him on a project. He was nice toContinue reading “"But I Know Him…"”
The Mysterious "They"
My mother was obsessed with them, but I never figured out who they were. For a while, I thought maybe they were the neighbors, but that didn’t make sense. Other than waving hello as we passed by, we weren’t really friends with our neighbors. We didn’t know each other any more than what was saidContinue reading “The Mysterious "They"”
What Every American Needs to Know About Narcissistic Abuse Right Now
There is a narcissist in the White House, and we are all in grave danger. From Dr. John Gardner’s Duty to Warn to several Ivy League psychiatry professors’ recent call to remove him from office, mental health professionals are speaking out. But is it too late? As someone who was raised by abusive, narcissistic parents,Continue reading “What Every American Needs to Know About Narcissistic Abuse Right Now”
Five Things Trauma Survivors Need in Order to Heal
I spent many years absorbing the blame for my abusive family, and exhausted every possible avenue of attempting to “get along” with them. When I finally went no contact, it took another ten years to feel safe enough to fully embrace my past and grieve. Even though I thought I had done quite a bitContinue reading “Five Things Trauma Survivors Need in Order to Heal”
Absolutes and Gray Areas
I am naturally inclined to look at a topic from every angle in order to find the truth in it. Empathy and understanding have always been strengths, most likely developed out of a need to survive my toxic, abusive, narcissistic parents. I’ve always wondered why some people have such a hard time seeing other pointsContinue reading “Absolutes and Gray Areas”
